There are an array of things that moms go through but none ideal as to what awaits them when the become stay at home moms. Not that this is a bad thing and majority of the time this is a choice in which a mom has chosen this route. She feels that their are more benefits vs. the way she has been currently living. When you become a stay at home mom just like any other job but without the SANITY in a sens.
Yes you gave up you 9 – 5 because:
- You want to raise you children
- Educate them in depth the way you want
- Have more bonding time
- Or you simply want to do you own thing and just be a mom
The reasons are infinite but with the pros you best bet is that the cons are not that far behind.
What does it mean to become a stay at home Mom?
We have already addressed some reasons as to why you may want or become a stay at home mom. On the other hand there is a bigger picture here.
- Losing your identity. You were a bright and vibrant woman who always kept herself up now your wearing pj’s with banana nut squash on it.
- Missing adult interaction: Not being able to hang put with your friends on you lunch break, Not really leaving the house unless you have to
- Financial dependence on another: Having to depend on you spouse to obtain the finances that you may have
- Answering unnecessary questions: What made you become a stay at home mom?, you don’t miss going to work everyday?
This is what you should consider when you become a stay at home mom, now if your like me you simply don’t care because this was a good decision based off of my family and income. No matter what your reasons are if you can get through this then you got it. Disregard the baby and yet keep moving, keep inspiring others when they ask “Do you like being a stay at home mom?”
I love it but that’s just me I have endured 2 if not all things listed above and I am steadfast about my decision, why because I am m e and what matters at the end of the day is my family.
How do you as a SAHM survive?
There are days when I just want throw the towel in and lock myself in my room but some of us don’t have that luxury and so we have to bite the bullet and deal. When I first started this journey I kept thinking to myself I cant do this. There would be times when I would call my husband overwhelmed and upset because everything was chaos. But once I got the hang of it I found that as long as I have a structured plan then my day would stop being so hectic. It’s really simple if I can do it then so can you.
Steps to How I Survive
- Get you a game plan ready the night before….
- Grab a little bit of fresh air take an outing…
- Look for free things such as museums or the aquariam …
- Exchange your number with other mom don’t be scared this can lead to play dates, social interaction for both you and your child|ren….
- Exercise. …
- Do something for yourself once per week (at least), engage in a want it’s okay you have earned it. …
- Make the time you spend with your kids memorable
This also goes hand in hand with patience and I can honestly say that I lacked this very detail. I know that when I had my children I had to learn this concept really fast, kind of a sink or swim ordeal. I chose to swim because my kids and family mean the world to me.
How can I be a patient mom is what I used to ask myself and each time I fell short even after I heard my first daughter it was smooth sailing. As she got older however I found that I was becoming extremely overwhelmed very fast. This is not a good trait to possess and so I decided that I was going to fix it because nothing god could come from that. It would just lead me down a road of self destruction. So lets figure out how we can be more productive in becoming patient.
- Count to 10. (gives you a chance to step back from the situation)
- Deep breaths
- What would mom do? …
- Weigh out you options…(How does this help?)
- Take a break.
Now when I say counting there is no right and wrong way to do this it’s as simply as it sounds but the overall outcome is that it works. It’s kind of like while you are counting you meditating, making sure that while you are counting you are also remaining calm.
Take a minute to step back from the situation and take deep deep breaths before just reacting this gives you time to analyze the situation, weighing the good and the bad outcomes.
What would Mom do?
Now be rational because you are a mom and your not just going to go off the rails and start throwing a tantrum. You have to be rational as if it was ever a choice. So ask yourself again “What Would Mom DO?
Find a Solution, Act on a Teachable Moment
Life’s lessons are what stay embedded in our children even after we are gone so embrace them with open arms knowing that instead of yelling you made the right decision as a MOM.
Weighing the good and the bad?
We all have choices but it’s the choices you make that will affect you forever. Make a mental list of the good and the bad and what would be your best possible outcome for the decision at hand.
Should I take a break?
Hmmm, should you take a break well geez let me think. A lot of people say that your a mom you don’t get or need breaks. A mom is sometimes discussed as an around the clock type job, you don’t have free time when you became a mom you gave that all up.
Well I beg to differ I am a mom of 3 and I take breaks if and when I need them. I’m not saying your having a bad day and the kids have drilled you down and you are on your last leg you just lock yourself in you bedroom. Simply ask your significant other if they can lend a helping hand. Or lay your children down for a map, I am a firm believer in naps. Why, you may ask because that’s my time to just be me not mom just for an hour out of they day. If you follow the tips i’m sharing then this may be rarely used.
Laugh out Loud…
We sometimes forget that we are all human and each of us has an imperfection somewhere but we are not as perfect as we may thing. We are in fact imperfect in a sense so In saying so things do happen, sometimes you just have to embrace it. Like your toddler sees his grandparents through a glass and runs into the glass. Although you may be scared that they are hurt you have to laugh because it doesn’t occur to you yet how the glass was not seen.
What are your thoughts on this topic?